AGAM FORUM OF KUMARAGURU INSTITUTIONS BOUNDARIES
“Love Yourself enough to set Boundaries, your time and energy are precious, and you get to decide how you use them.”
Boundaries is just setting limits in relationship. In other words, Setting boundaries simply means learning to say “No” to things, people, behaviors of others that gives us discomfort or makes us feel unsafe. We can set acronym of the word boundary as “Be aware Of what is Unacceptable and Normalize Saying No, Do what is best for you And know that its Not your Responsibility to Sacrifice Yourself for Others”. There are Different types of boundaries as follows, they are Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual.
This type of boundary includes your personal space and contact, your own time and energy, Sexual boundaries, Physical needs, Your possessions and property, Financial boundaries, Ability to make decisions about your body, health and self-care practices.
This type is about topic of conversation and about how much, what and when you share your things with others, ability to decide what you think , believe and express your own opinion. It also includes, respecting each other’s ideas and awareness of appropriate discussion.
Emotional Boundary is allowing yourself to feel your feelings, Ability to separate your feelings from others, Respecting privacy and Ability to Self- Regulate.
This type is being able to determine your own beliefs, to practice your beliefs without interference, Exploring your gifts and talents, Defining your purpose, Choosing your members and standing up for yourself.
HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES:
SIGNS OF UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES: –
It is when they try to spoil your reality, letting others to describe you, touching a person without their concern, telling all your own things in first meet, talking at intimate level on the first meet, letting others to direct or control your life.
“You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept”.