Interpersonal skills are the life skills, that we use everyday to communicate and interact with other people, both individually and in groups. People who have worked on developing strong interpersonal skills are usually more successful in both their professional and personal lives.
We’ve all been developing our interpersonal skills since childhood – usually subconsciously. Interpersonal Skills become so natural that we may take them for granted, never thinking about how we communicate with other people. With a little time and effort, we can develop these skills. Good interpersonal skills can improve many aspects of your life – professionally and socially.They lead to better understanding and better relationships.
However, the foundations for many other skills are built on strong interpersonal skills. Since these are relevant to our personal relationships, social affairs, and professional lives. Without good interpersonal skills, it is often more difficult to develop other important life skills.
Unlike specialized and technical skills (hard skills), interpersonal skills (soft skills) are used every day and in every area of our lives. Some of the interpersonal skills to be developed are Self-confidence, Positive attitude, Strong work ethic, Communication, Team player, Critical thinking, Problem-solving, Time management skills, Coping with pressure, Flexibility, Ability to accept constructive feedback.
IDEAS TO DEVELOP OUR INTERPERSONAL SKILLS:
Learn to Listen
Listening is different from hearing. We should take time to listen carefully to what others are saying through both their verbal and non-verbal communication.
Choose Your Words
We should be aware of the words we use when communicating with others.Whenever we are speaking, practice clarity and learn to seek feedback to ensure our message has been understood and encourage others to engage in communication and use appropriate questioning to develop our understanding. Communication is rarely perfect and can fail for a number of reasons.We must learn about the various barriers to good communication so we can be aware of and reduce the likelihood of ineffective interpersonal communication and misunderstandings.
“Communication is an art form that is crafted throughout our lives“
Relax and clarify
When we are nervous, we tend to talk more quickly and therefore clarity of delivering is poor. It is evident in our body language and other non-verbal communication that we are being tensed. Instead we can try to stay calm, make eye contact and smile. It lets our confidence shine. We should show an interest in the people we talk to. Ask questions and seek clarification on any points that could be easily misunderstood.
Try to remain positive and cheerful. People are much more likely to be drawn to us if we maintain a positive attitude.
People may have different points of view in everything . We should try to see and understand things from their perspective. We may learn something while gaining the respect and trust of others.
We should recognize, manage and reduce stress in yourself and others. Although stress is not always bad, it can have a detrimental effect on our interpersonal communication. Learning how to recognize and manage stress, in yourself and others, is an important interpersonal skill.
Learn to be Assertive
We should aim to be neither passive nor aggressive. Being assertive is about expressing your feelings and beliefs in a way that others can understand and respect. Assertiveness is fundamental to successful negotiation.
Reflect and Improve
We can learn from our mistakes and successes. So ,we should think about previous conversations and other interpersonal interactions and keep on improving our skills.
Learn to negotiate effectively with others. It paves way to the mutual respect, trust, and lasting interpersonal relations.
Working in Groups
We often find ourselves in group situations, professionally and socially.